The wedding vow is very important for your wedding in a sense that it somehow makes your wedding official. Some couples may take traditional vow as their wedding vow while some will write their own. In fact there are pros and cons for both choices and there is no definite answer for which one is a better choice. No matter which way you will choose, it is always a good idea to spend some time to think about your vow.



If you are planning to write your own wedding vow, you may have already started to seek for information on the internet. There are tons of suggestions on the web. You may even find it hard to make up your mind on what you are going to write.

It is true that writing the wedding vow is not that simple. However, you should be very clear about what you are doing and writing. As a result, you will certainly need to research a lot before you start writing. You will also need to consider the following issues if you really want to write a good wedding vow.

Consensus between you and your partner

Before you decide to write your own vow, you have to discuss with your partner. You need to make sure that both of you are well prepared and willing to write your own vow. If your partner does not want to do that, you may discuss with him or her for the reasons.

You should never make the decision just based on your preference. The points of view of your partner are also very important. At the end of the day the wedding is the wedding of both of you. All the decisions made should be agreed by both of you. If your partner is really reluctant to write the vow, you may need to go back to the traditional one.

The contents of the vow

If both of you and your partner agree to write your own vow, you can start to plan what to say in the vow. Again, you should discuss with your partner for what you want to say and what he or she would like to say.

You can start discussing with your partner through a brainstorming process. As I always advise, your personal feelings should not be involved in the brainstorming process. Even if you think an idea is not good and you have really good reason for that, you should discuss with your partner later otherwise the good ideas may get buried.

Time to start writing

When you have a concrete idea of what to write, you can prepare to start writing. It will be good to start writing as early as possible. As a reference, you can start writing two to three months before your wedding. And then you should review it about a month prior to your wedding.

Again, both of you and your partner should be involved in the writing process. If you think extensive modifications are needed when you review your vow, you should make sure that your partner agrees with the modifications.