Some marriages survive for a brief moment for the sake of the children. The relationship that endures is not a quality marriage of two people who love each other. It has turned into a marriage of convenience that eventually becomes inconvenient for both parties. The children are well aware that the marriage ended long ago, but they do not know how to go about maintaining a relationship with the parent who moved out of the house.



Some divorces are so brutal that the couples find that they have a hard time maintaining a relationship with their spouse after the divorce is final. The divorce might have involved a lengthy custody battle where all of the stops were pulled out to ensure one parent or the other would win their points for custody and walk out of court with the children in tow and feel like a winner.

The mere act of divorce splits the lives of two people right down the middle. All of the efforts to save the marriage are nil and some couples approach a divorce on the same grounds as a business deal. They put in their bids for property and negotiate visitation times with the children of the marriage. It is hard to maintain a long-lasting relationship of friendship from a relationship of love that ended so tragic.

After the final divorce degree has been issued each person is faced with starting a new life. Some spouses prefer to place a lot of distance between the memories that surround their past life. Conflicts arise when they want to move to another State and make plans to register the children in a new school. The relationship between both parties will determine whether another battle will ensue when the other parent finds out about the move.

Other divorces occur because adultery has occurred during the course of a marriage. The chances are very slim that any sort of relationship will be maintained after the final decree is issued. The couple can not even consider reconciliation of the marriage because of the hurt involved. The children of broken marriages suffer the most during a divorce and some find that maintaining a relationship with either parent is the betrayal of the love they have for the other.

If at all possible, divorcing couples should try to find a middle ground to stand on. This neutral ground will serve as a place where communication lines are kept and will serve as a resting place for children to place their guilt. At the neutral ground, children can continue to maintain a relationship with both parents and keep guilt from entering into the relationship that they have with all family members.