Child custody battles are the worst part of any divorce. Parents end up using their children as pawns to inflect damage on each other. The worst side of any person can be brought out in this part of divorce. Furthermore a bad court fight can result in some psychological damage to the children which will affect them for the rest of their lives.



When going through the long process of obtaining custody of your children the first step in many cases is to award some type of temporary child custody to both of the parents. This is to be taken very seriously in order for you to be successful later on. The best advice I can give is to treat this as though it were permanent. The term temporary is perhaps one of the most misleading parts of this process. I know of many parents who were lax at this stage and really regret it now as they have limited rights to see their children.

You see at the beginning of every custody battle a judge will have a hearing to figure out the best way for the children to live. This is done with both the lawyers and the parents and a written agreement is created in order to make things legal. This document then becomes part of the proceedings and is a determining factor in how the children will be placed later on. As it is known children thrive on routine and when a routine is established a judge is very hesitant to break it as it can cause an adverse reaction.

So in order for you to get the best possible result in obtaining custody of your children a routine with yourself is the predominant person would be the best way. The best lawyers will argue that since your children are already settled into their routine it would be unwise to disrupt this.

A lawyer will only tell you so much about the process of child custody hearings. After all it is their business to know how to deal with this and they do not really want to share their expertise as it can hurt their bottom line. The best resources you can find are from those that have gone through the process of winning custody of their children. Support groups for fathers are in almost every city and that can be one of the best places to turn to in order to speak with a live person on the subject that will not charge you by the hour.

While there may be many websites dedicated to helping you win custody of your children it is always best to turn to an expert. Now I do not necessarily mean a lawyer in this case. Rather someone who can coach and guide you through the process of getting as much time with your kids as possible. After all you have a limited amount of time on this Earth and your kids are really the only thing you leave behind that is truly a part of you. It is very wise to try to spend as much time as possible with them while you can.