This day and age it has become normal for both husband and wife to work full time jobs. With the additions of taking care of the family and hectic schedule it is no wonder why many couples with relationship problems are caught saying that they are just too busy for sex. The more and more hectic a schedule becomes, the further and further down the list intimacy gets pushed. But is this completely necessary? Can a lack of intimacy be fully blamed on the word ?busy?? For many couples this is a sad reality, however, with a little work your marriage can be on the road to recovery.



After talking with hundreds of men and women, no matter how busy their schedules had become there are certain events that inhabit their schedules that could be easily interchanged for times of intimacy. Often there becomes a strict division of time. Each member of the relationship will divide their schedule and consider it almost as an individual burden or something simply not shareable. Because of this, some couples still manage to schedule intimacy but find the intimacy lacking due to the division of the task.

Using the words ?too busy? often becomes a cover. It becomes an excuse for things that we don't want to do in every day life, but can't stand to be honest about. There are usually underlying relationship problems that cause the lack of intimacy. It becomes so easy to blame these problems on errands, meetings, or daily imperfections. Living day-to-day and suppressing anxieties and resentments become unhealthily normal.

It is most important to learn that this situation is not about blaming anyone. Intimacy by definition involves more than one person. Say you haven't had sex in 10 weeks, and this breaks you down so much that you conclude because of your breakdown that it could not possibly be your fault. You then put the blame on your partner that is ?too busy?. But just sit back and think. What is it in your day you could trade to create time? Be the first to make time. Your partner will follow, discard all insecurities and feel confident. Remember your partner loves you mind, body and soul.

There is always time for intimacy. Intimacy comes hand in hand with honesty. The quicker you become honest with yourself, the quicker the time will become available on your schedule. And with a newfound confidence and passion, your partner's schedule will become free as well.