What happened?



A likely answer is that you weren't touching her enough when you met her. This is natural because we are taught to be respectful and not be all "grabby" wit someone we just met. Isn't that sexual harassment?

First thing you have to remember is that the bar is not the workplace. In a bar or club it is not considered "disrespectful" to be touchy when you meet a woman, and even if you do go "gropey" on her, she's been in that situation so many times, she won't even remember it ten minutes later.

In fact, if you don't touch her at all the first five minutes, it becomes very awkward when you finally do start touching her. It just doesn't feel natural to touch her suddenly, so start early.

To start, when you come in and say hi, put your hand on the girl's shoulder. If there's two or more girls, put your hands on the two closest girls. As you're talking, keep touching to gesture and make a point. Shake hands. If a girl says something you don't like, playfully push her away *LIGHTLY.*

When you are touching this way, you come off as a guy who feels comfortable sharing space with women. Women then become very comfortable with your touch, as it doesn't seem like a big deal to you. Later on, this makes it easier to progress to more intimate touching.

In a trendy bar or club, you can take this even farther, and get some more sexual touching going on. Lean in and whisper in her ear. Pull her into you, waist to waist, and then maybe push her off, so she feels her buying temperature spike from being around you. This can feel different at first if you're new at this, but over time, it becomes very natural. It's ok to be "Mr. Creepy Touchy Guy" for a night, if you just need to get the hang of it. Rub your hands lightly over her arms, brush a stray hair from her face, and turn up the romantic juice. If any ladies you ask tell you this is too much for someone you just met, go to a bar yourself, and see how men are interacting with women there. The ones most close and touchy are NOT usually boyfriend and girlfriend. If you don't believe me, go ahead and ask them! They usually just met tonight.

You now have the beginnings of what you need to start physically escalating with women you just met. With this newly acquired skillset, kissing and moving her home will just be natural. Keep at it, and don't worry if it doesn't work the first few times. Just have fun with it.