Almost 1.3million Britons are hiding loans valued at almost ?7.7billion from their partners and families. To make it worse many of those are paying interest at a much higher rate than they should, as they don't always seek out the best deal in their furtive attempt to keep their borrowings secret from their loved ones.
Recent research by Abbey Loans found that the majority of people who took out loans without informing their nearest and dearest did so to consolidate existing debt, with 56 per cent of people admitting to taking this action. The average size of their loan amounted to ?5,720 but, as with all averages, that doesn't present the total picture. Incredibly, five per cent of those polled managed to conceal sizeable debts of between ?20k and ?50k; the substantial remainder borrowed less than ?3,000.
But, even though the majority of secret borrowers are consolidating debt, the remaining 46 per cent use their loans as a fresh line of credit. Almost two per cent of the respondents admitted to using the money to pay for cosmetic surgery. Hiding the loan may be relatively easy but quite how one keeps the effects of surgery from the family begs another question that sadly wasn't answered by this survey! Seven per cent used their advance to pay medical bills, and 15 per cent used the cash for home improvements.
Why the borrower opted not to tell their partner or family about their loans stemmed mainly from embarrassment with 56 per cent of respondents quoting that as the primary reason for keeping the borrowing under wraps. A further 29 per cent insisted it was a private matter and was of no concern to their partner, while six per cent had to keep it secret as the purpose of the loan was to surprise their other half with a holiday treat or special purchase such as a wedding!
Other reasons for the loans included large purchases such as cars, or to lend money to friends in financial trouble. However, Director of Abbey Loans, Paul Morrish believes that the problem in taking out loans in secret is that generally people don't shop around, let alone get impartial financial advice. By keeping it to themselves secret borrowers cannot be open and honest about the amount they can afford to pay back. He is also concerned that many people would not take out the most suitable loan for their secret purchase or debt consolidation as there are many different loans for different purposes.
Morrish's advice to would-be secret borrowers is simple: don't do it! For the benefit of your joint financial future, be open and honest about your finances with your partner.
I Ve Got People
It's the "If they can, you can," or "If I can, you can," syndrome.
However, the drop out rate of 102% tells us this is not quite how things turn out.
2500 years ago, the Buddha also wanted to get others into his fold. He had a VERY BIG and wonderful life experience that people strive to get all over the world - a feeling of enlightenment and inner peace, free from suffering.
That was his personal success and he wanted to build a big organization of people who could benefit from it too. Of course he needed followers, and especially, teachers, just like we do. However, he did something very different to get his followers. It was just the opposite of the "If I can you can" syndrome.
He told them in effect, "(After 7 years), I have found enlightnment and I think I understand everything now." He then astonished them all and said, "But don't take my word for it. Don't believe what anybody says, including me. Test it for yourself first. Then decide." - Thurman, On Buddhism. 1999)
Nearly every historian has commented on this bold approach:
"Oh monks, just like examining gold in order to know its quality, you should put my words to the test." - Wise, Blessings of the Wind. 2002.
He believed that someone's own, personal experience (versus promises or experiences of others) is what creates a long term believer and ultimately, what will lead to success. Because they tend to stick if they believe based on personal experience.
Do you agree with that?
Can you imagine what would happen if we practiced network marketing like that?
Imagine hearing these bold words from the front of the room:
"Don't take our word for it. Put our words to the test." Who dares to be first?
Suddenly people try the product or business, without relying on ANY promises or half-truths, and they get to see for themselves (with 2-by-2 instruction) whether it's going to be a good thing for them or not.
Yes, there would be many drop outs. But no broken promises and resultant bad taste and bad rep. And those who make it will believe and stick, like the Buddha's followers did, because of the strength of their OWN experience and the unwavering belief that came from it.
2500 years of success. Versus a 102% drop out rate.
Shall we implement the Buddha method in our practice of NM?
Yes, your business might not survive for 2500 years. But what if your good prospect tries it, with the Buddha method introduction, experiences the benefits personally, and sticks beyond those first 90 days and maybe much more, finally?
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