I have developed 7 steps to enable you first to determine whether you are in crisis at work and then to give you a kick-start to taking the actions necessary to change the situation.
My clients are all very busy and I have promised to keep these articles concise accordingly. Due to the size and nature of this topic I have decided to split it across two newsletter articles. Part 2 will be published at the beginning of December 2008.
Step 1 - Identify
Answer these 7 questions quickly and without thinking about the answers too much:
Do you constantly feel stressed or anxious at work?
At the end of the day do you often think 'I have added little or no value today. I have made little or no difference.'?
Is there always too much to do and no time to do it?
Do you think you are unworthy for or unlikely to get a promotion?
Do you think your boss does not respect or value you?
Does it feel as though you have little or no support at work?
Do you think often of resigning or of losing your job?
If you answered yes to 5 or more questions, then you are in crisis.
Step 2 - Accept, Face, Decide
Now that you've realised it the next step is to accept it and face it. Until you do nothing will change. Ask yourself these questions:
Do I accept now that I am in crisis at work?
Am I now willing to face the fact that I am in crisis at work?
Now you have a decision to make:
Are you going to take control and do whatever it takes to change the situation and yourself (because undoubtedly changes are required in both)?
Or are you going to stay as you are and allow things to take their own course without your influence and regardless of your wishes?
Congratulations! You have just taken the first couple of steps towards changing the situation. They were difficult and even scary steps I know. Take a moment to give yourself a pat on the back plus the positive feedback that you have started the journey towards where you want to be.
Now let's start working on getting you from the situation you are in to the one you want to be in.
Step 3 - Set the Main Goal
We need to start with a very clear idea of what you want.
Pick a time frame for when you want to have resolved everything successfully. Is it 1 month? 3 months? 6 months? 1 year? Or something else? Make sure the deadline seems right for you, that you believe it is possible at the same time as giving yourself a slight stretch. Work out the exact date and write it down.
Now what is your goal for that day? You need to come up with a sentence that is phrased positively, is specific and is measurable. Imagine yourself on that day. Think about what you want to see, hear and feel. Once more ensure that you believe this is possible while at the same time giving yourself a slight stretch. Write the goal down next to the date.
It is essential to be completely honest with yourself as you set your goal. It is amazing the number of my clients who say they want one thing, set that as a goal and start moving towards it when deep down they truly want something completely different!
Once more imagine yourself on the day your goal is achieved. What are you seeing? What are you hearing? What are you feeling? Take a few moments to completely immerse yourself in that vision of the future. And then ask:
On a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 is not at all and 10 is completely and utterly, how much do I truly want to reach this goal?
If something isn't quite right or you realise that goal really isn't what you're after, then re-visit the goal and tweak or re-write it until you can answer the above question with a minimum score of 8.
If that goal seems like the summit of a mountain right now, relax. We're not going to try to fly straight to the top.
In Part 2 of this article at the beginning of December we will take the next 4 steps to break the journey up into manageable bite sized pieces and start to move you forward.
Identity Crisis Part 1
Last month we took the first 3 steps towards resolving a very tricky situation. They were:
1. Identify - How to identify whether or not you are in crisis at work.
2. Accept, Face, Decide - If you are in crisis how to accept that fact, face it and decide to do something about it.
3. Set the Main Goal - Deciding precisely what you want instead of the current situation, checking it is the right goal and exactly when you want to achieve it.
This month we are going to cover the final 4 steps so that you can really begin to move forward, change the situation you are in and reach the one you want to be in.
Step 4 - Set the First Journey Goal
If you were going to take one step, right now, towards the main goal you set last time, what would that step be? What is the first mini-goal which when achieved will have started you on the journey and moved you one step closer?
It's important to note that I'm not talking about an action point here, I'm talking about a mini or journey goal (which will require a series of actions to achieve it). Let's say that your main goal is to achieve promotion to a particular post. The first mini-goal may be to improve relations with a particular influential colleague or improve the results of one of your teams (remember goals must be specific so 'improve' is not sufficient. You must state precisely what changes you want). This would then require several actions to achieve.
Put a deadline on the first mini goal. By when are you going to accomplish it?
Step 5 - Work out your options
Now what action could you take in order to achieve the journey goal?
What else?
What else?
Give your subconscious permission to produce whatever ideas it likes. It doesn't matter if they seem outrageous or impossible, just accept them and note them down.
Would finding yourself a mentor be a good step? What about talking to a trusted friend or colleague who could help you move forward? Perhaps signing up with a coach that you trust and can work with is the answer.
Keep asking 'What else?' until you are sure you have everything covered. And then ask once more.
Step 6 - Commit to your action plan
When you have a full list of options read it through and notice which actions leap out at you. Choose the actions you are going to take to achieve the mini goal and discard the others for the time being.
Make a fresh list containing the actions you intend to take.
It is vital to commit yourself to taking these actions so give each one a precise deadline. Write the date next to each one.
Ask yourself what could stop you taking each of these actions and how you could manoeuvre around those obstacles.
How committed are you to taking these actions? Answer on a scale from 1 to 10 where 1 is not at all and 10 is nothing will stop me.
If your answer is 7 or less you are not sufficiently committed. Go back to your goal and mini goal and re-assess them. Tweak them until you can get to this point with an answer of 8 or more.
Step 7 - Maintaining Momentum
Once you've achieved the first mini goal, you can use the same process to create and reach the second step and so on.
Each mini goal you reach is one step closer to that main goal.
If you find yourself losing focus, panicking or getting anxious re- read this quote from R.I. Fitzhenry - 'Uncertainty and mystery are energies of life. Don't let them scare you unduly, for they keep boredom at bay and spark creativity.'
Now allow yourself to be creative and flexible and change the way things are to way you need them to be.
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