When two people form what we call a holy bond, that's matrimony. They made the decision while they were both in a perfectly sane state and have therefore promised to spend their lives together. Sometimes it may happen that the couple has no family support around them, or perhaps even that relatives are interfering in their private lives, causing pressure on them and so forth, that they find it difficult to progress by living together. They are humans, and they have feelings, emotions and needs. If in any way, they feel that one of these needs is not met, this can lead to massive stress in the relationship.



At this very crucial point, when the couple really needs someone to confide in and they don't find anyone trustworthy, and they are uncomfortable with the idea of meeting counselors or psychiatrists to reveal their minds, that's when books on counseling are helpful.

I personally have read so many books by Dr Phil McGraw, and believe me the feeling and depth with which they are written act as a beacon of light for endangered couples, who were once very much in love with each other. There are books like these that help couples rediscover what they have lost and try to get it back in a simple and straight way if they are willing to accept the instructions. There are no complicated and confusing lectures, but just a first step to heal by accepting their faults. Books teach them to deal with not only their own attitudes and egos but how to deal with their spouses, relative, friends and people around them. The books show the positive way to act.

These books deal with specific issues and problems, and not beating around the bush. They show a couple that if they remain focused and persevering for a solution to their problems, there is no reason why they should not be comforted, and things could change for the better. Life and relationships can be tough sometimes, but good book counseling to fill in all those cracks. Though it may take time, but hope is there. Begin to trust each other and all will be better than before.

I look at life as a river, where the relationship is a ship, and the book is a sailor! Isn't it amazing! Every time you stop moving, you find yourself stuck. Just open up this book and start rowing. Very soon, you will reach, the place you set out to go at first. Not alone, but with the one who wears your ring. And when it is all over, take a lovely book, sit on the shores of Hawaii, and watch the sun go down.