As a part of a married couple, you would know whether you have the tendency to be jealous with reasons that are most often not justified enough.



Arguments originating from jealousy often get irrational and very emotional and it is hard to cope with the negative feelings that emerge from it. However, we should try to grab these negative emotions and use them to make the relationship stronger. At least it is emotions and any emotion can be used in good ways or bad ways.

Now let's see how you can deal with jealousy in your marriage:

1. Try to get an insight of your inner self

Ask yourself why you tend to get jealous unreasonably. Does your partner actually show signs that you should not trust him or her?

Trust is the best defense against jealousy. When two people trust each other jealousy is much less likely to get any chance at all. However, distrust is the perfect foundation on which jealousy can grow - and eventually get out of control.

Ask yourself if it is really worth your time and emotional effort to get jealous for no reason at all.

2. Actually a certain amount of jealousy can be healthy for a marriage. This goes as long as it doesn't reach a critical level and distrust and anger become the predominant feelings. Jealousy actually has its roots in our desire to preserve what we have when we get the feeling that something or somebody might be taken from us.

A man will naturally want to 'protect his territory'. This is why it is hard-wired into a man's behavior. This is as long as this 'territorial feeling' tends more to protect his partner and not be destructive.

Keep this in mind and you will be able to channel these feelings towards improving your marriage.

3. Track down the root of these feelings. The way that you feel is the outcome of a certain situation. Ask yourself why you have a feeling of jealousy. If this feeling actually comes from an insecurity that you have it could be a feeling of shortcoming that you are lacking in something. Or it could be a result of a deep-seated doubt that you have in about relationship with your partner.

This can also be caused by fear, or a past hurt that you have carried in to adulthood.

There might be many other causes but most of the time there has been one particular occurrence in the past that caused that certain type of trust to get lost and be replaced by chronic distrust and fear.

It is crucial that you find the reason for these feelings within yourself.

4. Jealousy can also have other forms

You might be jealous of things or traits your partner has and you don't.

You can only address your feelings if you can find out the root of the problem.

5. Ask yourself about what this feeling does to your partner.

Many times jealousy has been the cause why couples separate.

How would you feel if your partner was jealous all the time and you think there is actually no reason for it? Put yourself in the situation of your partner and try to understand how your jealousy comes across.

6. Fighting irrational jealousy through better understanding of yourself

In case you find that the reason for jealousy is low self-esteem then you should work on changing your attitude. Of course this is easier said than done but many couples have successfully managed to keep this dangerous animal jealousy under control through gaining a better self-understanding first.

7. Accept taking risks.

Jealousy is often caused by the fear of being disappointed.

In love and in life, you should learn to take risks because that is the only way that you can put yourself out there and really get to be with the one you love.

Learning to deal with these feelings will help you to have a happier and lasting marriage.