I would venture to say that we are looking at a relative representation of the population; not a socio-economic indicator of domestic abuse.
Would you know a battered queen if you saw one? Moreover, would you recognize yourself as one if that were indeed the case?
Who Are the Battered Queens?
Battered queens come in all shapes and sizes. They can be doctors, lawyers, movie stars, financial experts.... They may be stay at home moms who drive a Mercedes, manage multiple household employees and spend as much on an outfit as most people spend on a season's wardrobe.
Spending the family money is often their punishment to their abuser for physical battery, assault and spousal emotional abuse. It's one of their contributions to the cycle of abuse. They love it and they hate it, at the same time.
They are usually in the largest and most tightly sealed closet, and they represent the biggest elephants under the carpet. Why? Because the implications of their "coming out" can be far more deadly than for others who are battered.
They know their financial privilege is part of their problem and realize their abusive partner has an endless army to draw upon to maintain control. Often times, this is the primary reason they stay in the abusive relationship.
The Risk of Leaving an Abusive Relationship for Battered Queens
Their exits pose extreme risks to themselves and to their children because there is much fuel to feed many extensions of the abuser. So on the way out, the abuse can—and more often than not—multiply exponentially overnight. Many are buried in, and by, the ordeal.
For some there is an inward comfort in knowing that their abuser is preoccupied with abusing them through the courts, rather than taking matters into the streets. The damage they sustain by virtue of their expensive exit out from the abusive relationship can be equally devastating.
Ray of Hope for Battered Queens
If you are a battered queen, know you are not alone. There are services for you, though they will be diamonds in the rough. Further, know you can use your family privilege to aid in your survival if you play your hand wisely. Lastly don't give up on yourself or on the possibility of breaking-free with your life, liberties and integrity in tack.
Men In Abusive Relationships
Many women live in a relationship that is physically abusive. The question is why? Are they not realizing that the relationship is abusive? Do they get any positive result from that relationship? Do they fear hurting their partner by leaving? Why don't they retaliate or walk out? How do they come in this situation of getting abused? When it began, why did they not realize? One can ask many questions about abusive relationships without getting an answer. Let us discuss this.
Let us look at a relationship. It began well. After some months, abuse began. It was very small and at long intervals. The woman thought that abuse was not inherent in the nature of her partner and that with time it would stop. But with time it increased. Now she is getting accustomed to abuse and many times does not realize that she is being abused.
When she starts thinking about it, she begins feeling bad. How could she go through this? She may begin hating herself for that. How does she talk about it to others? What will they say? They will also ask the question - why did you bear this for so long. So what should she do? This self-beating continues with abuse. The abuser knows that he has hold over his woman and she will not protest. He continues.
One day, the woman comes to terms with her situation and can no longer bear the pain of hiding the abuse. She can no longer tolerate the abuse and the hurt to her self-esteem. At that point, she walks out. This was an example. The story may proceed in many different ways. If you know anybody about whom you doubt that she is undergoing abuse, talk to her and get her counseling to get out of the relationship.
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