Romantic relationships are difficult. The fact is clear that over 50% of all marriages end in divorce. That is a staggering figure and one that we should all be working towards lowering. Marriage can be such a good thing. Marriage is beneficial and it is wonderful when it is between two people who are good for each other. Even in relationships that are not marriages, failure is high. The single biggest killer of relationships is so simple and so easy to overcome that it is shocking.
You are probably guilty of this relationship killer and do not even know it. The single biggest killer of relationships is expectations. Having and setting expectations is the best way to ruin a relationship.
What happens is a person goes into a relationship or during the course of a relationship develops expectations for their partner. They so strongly desire their partner meets these expectations that they become blinded to the partner they really have. Even if the partner tries to meet the expectations it will never be exactly what their partner wants. This is because expectations in relationships are most often unobtainable.
When our expectations do not get met we begin fighting and there's no way to work it out because our expectations will never be fulfilled. So, it goes on until the relationship ends.
One of the reasons we set expectations is because we all have this preconceived notion of what we want in our ideal mate. When we do get into a relationship it is likely the person meets some of our ideal mate qualities, but probably not all of them. Due to the fact that they are so close to our perfect mate, we start to believe that they can reach the goals of being our ideal mate.
These expectations form and the relationship is doomed. Expectations can cause resentment and frustration. They place unrealistic demands on our partner and start to make them feel as if they are good enough.
Expectation are so harmful that even the most ideal couple can be ruined by them. If a person harbors these expectations then they are likely going to surface at some point. The best thing to do with expectations is to forget about them.
Letting expectations grow and feeding them is only adding fuel to the fire. Soon those expectations will come out and then the relationship is in trouble. It is a matter of working through them yourself. You have to accept that your partner is who they are. You can not expect to change them and you can not expect to mold them into whatever it is you expected them to be. If you are so bothered that they do not meet your expectations then perhaps you are with the wrong person after all.
The Biggest Killer Whale
The Human Papilloma Virus is something that many people carry that can cause things as minor as genital warts. It is easily picked up and is responsible for seven out of ten cases of cervical cancer. Thanks to modern technology, cervical cancer screening has been developed and treatments are relatively straight forward and, in the main, successful.
However, there are still four hundred deaths a year from cervical cancer that has not been picked up early enough. Medical insurance companies pay for the treatment of some of these cases yet even with the advanced health care this can bring, women are still dying from the disease. Women are dying from a preventable disease which really is unacceptable.
The UK government have now decided to put the necessary funds into a vaccine that is ready for nationwide distribution. This will prevent women from contracting the HPV in the first place and will save so many lives every year. It is to be made available as a routine vaccination at the age of twelve, expecting to cost the government 100 pounds million with a further 200 pounds million while they phase in treatment to make sure that girls up to the age of 18 are also covered.
It will be some time before the effects of the programme, sue to begin in September 2008, are seen and in the meantime health care professionals are urging women of all ages to continue with their routine screening processes. Routine cervical smears prevent 84 out of every 100 possible cervical cancer cases by detecting and allowing for treatment while the cell changes are still in the early stages.
When it comes to cancer of any type, this is one of the biggest costs to medical insurance companies and it takes the biggest toll on human life in the UK along with heart disease. However, breakthroughs are constantly being made and nature is one of our biggest sources of medicines. The Magnolia tree is the latest discovery in the prevention of cancer.
The cone of the Magnolia has been found to contain properties that block key processes in cells that are turning cancerous. However, once again, the Chinese go there first. They have been using this substance for years in their herbal medicines because it blocks on of the communication pathways that allows tumours to survive and grow.
The body has a natural process of killing off rogue cells but some cancers can tune into the pathway of an enzyme called Phospholipase D which enables the cancer cells to survive the body's self destruct mechanism. Turning off this ability will prevent the cancer cells from growing and multiplying.
Cancers that use this particular pathway account for a third of human cancers and research has found that the effective ingredient, Honokiol, is extremely potent in breast cancers. This is a massive breakthrough on the route to finding a cancer cure. To start with, the treatment will be used in conjunction with traditional chemotherapy and should make it more effective and hopefully, at some point in the future, less invasive and more natural methods of treating cancer will be a first choice.
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