When I act according to the values I hold dear in my everyday life, it brings a sense of congruency and harmony within, which shows up in all those around me as I strive to create my dream. There are times, however, when I find that agreement with those who I live with eludes me, that harmony is distant, and conformity with those same values seems unreachable. It is at this time of "enlightenment" masked by frustration or impatience when I start to see that the corresponding lessons I am learning are many....



The following are The Top Ten Lessons from my greatest teachers. My husband and my son have been instrumental in allowing a deeper understanding of life's mysteries, of my limitations and strengths and in turn, of their beautiful worthiness.

Those is our lives are mirrors of the best in us and the humanness in us, and reveal the gap between what we truly want and how close we are to manifesting that reality. Sometimes that gap is gaping and sometimes it is just a small easily sealed crack. There is no gap too wide to close, I have found.

Everything in this process begins and ends with gratitude. There are times when I sit rather than stand up for myself and the values that are not shared by those I live with. Even in these experiences, I am grateful that I am more aware of how the person I have become can show up all the time.

Here are the Top Ten Lessons:

1. Always keep a tissue handy for times when love runs over into tears. They could be tears of despair, to tears of anger, to tears of frustration, then to tears of appreciation, tears of hope, to tears of Joy.

2. Allow one sentence to finish before beginning another. Communication is just the tip of the iceberg. Know what you are feeling as you say your words. Breathe feeling into your words and slow down.

3. Listening to the complete thought of another is true love. To listen soul to soul is an art, especially with those you know well. Sometimes I assumed I knew the next thought, projected the word to come, when just listening with the heart is all that is needed.

4. Even when you know the answer, try chewing on and allowing the question to carefully sink in before replying. Jumping the gun always has irreversible results that can quickly exaggerate into a volatile scene.

5. Always know that an argument about the answer can lead to a closer connection to your Source of wisdom. Become the Observer whenever an argument occurs. I often ask the question "Is it better to be Loved or to be Right?"

6. Take care with your words and allow them to be laced with your true voice. Authenticity can be clear in whatever you say. Take a deep breath before speaking, know that you are loved, and speak that love.

7. Enjoy your preferences while accepting those of others, even when inconvenient. Whenever I become uncomfortable, I often say to myself, 'this too shall pass.' I also allow the contrast of that experience to give me clarity about what I do want, so I can clearly ask for a different experience to show up next time.

8. Mind your own vibration. Allow another to find their own way out of negative vibration - don't join them in it.

9. Feel your way to Health, Harmony and Hope. The 3 H's will certainly move towards you as you allow them in.

10. See another as they truly are in your desires. See another in the picture you most want for them. Allow them to become!