We all know that cash and gift cards are by far the most anticipated gift for any new couple. This is usually because money is a huge concern for young couples who are just starting out and being given money as a gift helps to relieve worries and stress they may be experiencing. Money is also a practical gift for couples who have been together for a long time and who are already living together. Let's face it, if you've already “set-up house”, then you don't really need another coffee pot or duvet. So all of these facts may have you thinking, “Well, then we'll just ask for money”, but it is actually very improper etiquette to ask for cash or gift cards in your wedding or shower invitations, even if that is what you need the most. But, don't let this discourage you! There are actually some very creative ways to get the cash you want without being rude, and being guilty of poor etiquette.



1.) Spread the word. The best way to ensure cash and gift cards on your wedding day is to share your wishes with your family and friends. By letting them in on your dirty little secret, you can almost guarantee that they will share the information with another guests.

2.) Don't register. If your actually serious about not needing anything for your home, then the best way to encourage people to give you money as a gift is to not create a wedding registry or to create one that is very minimal.

3.) Sell raffle tickets. This really only works well for a shower, but if your reception is casual you could work it in on your wedding day. The trick is to purchase something nice, like a new grill, a weekend stay at a nearby bed and breakfast, or whatever. It can be something that represents you as a couple, and something they will truly cherish. Then you should set a price and sell raffle tickets to your guest and then have a drawing at your shower or reception. This is a great way to make some extra cash, and its something fun your guests can really get in on.

4.) Have a money tree. A lot of couples have a “money tree” at their shower or reception or both. Basically, you can purchase a potted tree, usually a small one with few leaves, and then you attach colorful ribbons to the tree. At your shower or reception, guests can give you a gift of money by attaching it to the tree with the ribbons.

5.) The Dollar Dance. This is a very popular way to grab some extra cash, and usually ever guest has fun doing it. At your reception, the bride and groom take the dance floor. The DJ then announces that the bride and groom would like to invite all their guests to join them for the dollar dance. As the music plays, male guests make a line to dance with the bride and female guests make a line to dance with the groom. Each participant must pay at least a dollar for their dance, and then dances with the bride/groom for a few moments and then turn them over to the next person in line. This continues until everyone has had a chance.

These are all creative ways to score some extra cash at your wedding without offending anyone, and there has to be other great ideas out there, if you would just take time to think about it, get creative, and do your research. Remember only you, as couple, know what your greatest need is and so you shouldn't be embarrassed to get creative without outright asking for it.