You continue to be the same type of person and so you date the same type of guy. Whatever it is about you that attracts jerks needs to be discovered and then changed, if you don't want to date them.



Now sometimes people are just big, huge jerks, don't get me wrong. But we are not talking about them, we are talking about you. You need to follow the three steps here to stop your jerk-dating pattern.

First Step: Ask a Friend

If more than once you've dated the same type of loser, go to your most honest friend and ask why they think that is. Really listen to what they tell you.

Be Single: Second Step

For awhile you need to decide to be single. You are truly single during this time so date yourself. Get to know what it is that makes you and learn what makes you tick. Think about what you need to be happy and what it is you're really looking for. Figure it out and once you do, write it down, keep it in your bag, and read it every day.

Date the Antithesis: Third Step

Do yourself a favor and date someone that is nothing like your ex, when you are ready. So seek someone that is different; get a taste for what is out there. You might be surprised to find that you connect with all kinds of people-even if you don't think they're your "type."

With time and self-reflection you won't date anymore jerks. Like all challenges we face, the first step is admitting you have a problem.