This is quite a common problem, people believing that one legal divorce form fits all.



Since all the States entered into the "no fault" divorce process, with New York being the last to agree, a divorce can now be handled with minimum fuss and even without a lawyer if you are happy with the process.

There is little paperwork involved, obviously the correct form being essential, plus you may be subject to resubmission fees if the forms/or form itself is incorrect.

My own divorce went very well recently, some say better than the actual wedding, if that's understandable. What simplified things was the fact that we had prepared...a lot. We had each agreed on what we would be taking from the marriage, and the costs were very low, apart from the fact that I used a lawyer as I am a bit of a coward.

My wife was excellent as she represented herself, she oozed confidence, and was totally in control. Unlike myself, all terror and palpitations; I hate formal speaking and officialdom, so tend to avoid these situations wherever possible.

We both walked away with 50% each of the spoils (as planned), and I had a small bill from the lawyer. And that was it.

This is not hard to do, and you can do it too. All it involves is a little confidence, som detailed research, some co-operation from your ex in the early days (by far the hardest part), and some of your time.

It's not much to ask is it, and you could walk away with your life, your money, and your sanity in tact.

What a bargain for such little effort.