Women put in a tremendous amount of work into looking their all time best for that one special day, to the detriment of the men they're about to marry. Because truly, who can keep up that look for even another day? And yet most men want their wives to look the way they did they day they married them, including the long hair, the slim body, etc.). And most women settle in to taking the rest of their lives to change the their husbands into something they husband can never be. Does this sound like a set-up for marriage failure?

A quarter century down the road we hardly look the sexy, slim women we were on our wedding day, to the sadness of our husbands who now are in the deep end of the pool called mid-life crisis, where they discover a life raft called "the younger woman." Meanwhile, the woman takes inventory of the man she has vowed to change so many years ago, and she realizes that he's certainly not the man she married, but he is by far the man she had hoped him to become. It's a true set up. Why do we do this to ourselves?

The first thing that seems to come off after women get married is their beautiful long hair. The first thing to get put on is weight.

We all have seen the young and athletic couple before their wedding, the very one we run into at the mall a year later and think "holy crap, they've gained weight!" He proudly holds on to his love handles while blaming the wife's cooking.

What about us women though? We have enjoyed our own cooking for the most part of our lives, so why gain weight after we're married? More importantly, how do we get off the unnecessary weight, without falling into the endless downward spiral called "diet trap?

These 3 pointers may help any woman to stay or feel attractive and to feel beautiful about herself:

1.Keep your gym membership (if you don't have one, get one). As soon as children arrive, and perhaps even before then, the schedule changes and for many the first thing to get cut off the daily routine or the financial burden is a gym membership or exercise in general. We make excuses and say things like: "I just don't have the time anymore." "It's too expensive and I only go once or twice a week, I might as well cancel the membership and start working out at home." Warning: Working out at home takes more self-discipline than most people have. If you have to cut down on your finances, make your gym membership one of the last things you cut out of your budget.

2.Keep that long hair. Yes, one of the first things we chop off when we get married seems to be that long gracious long hair that takes oh-so much time every day. Yes, it's a lot of work. And I dare you to spend that extra 30 minutes a day to treat yourself nice by looking your very best with your beautiful long hair. Instead of seeing long hair as a burden, see it as a blessing and a money saver. Short hair costs a lot more in hair dresser fees than long hair does. You can use the money you save on a hair dresser on your gym membership.

3.Your body is your best friend - listen to it. Even Adam and Eve found a bond through a mere apple. To this day when we go out to eat we ask the person we're with: "What are you having?" Who cares what they're having! In some illogical twisted kind of way food is a great bonding experience between people (we can be so primal). Let's take that next step on this evolutionary ladder and start asking this question of our body instead: "What would you like today?" Listen to that voice instead and you'll find that your body works with you like a well-oiled machine that keeps you going healthy for decades to come.