You have broken up with your boyfriend and are wondering how to get him back. It is very possible to do this even in difficult situations. People have gotten back together before, even if it is not easy to do. But now is not the time to be concentrating on that. There are ways to get your ex boyfriend back, but you need to look for the causes of the break up, and your role in it. The whole process starts with you being willing to take a close look at yourself.



You need to get down to the root cause of the problems between you and your ex boyfriend.  What  things were your fault, which ones were not your fault? There are two people involved here but the things that were not your fault are irrelevant here. Focus on yourself and the things that you can do. Be completely honest about the situation, and then you will know what it is about yourself that you need to adjust. Once you have done your own self searching it is time for a practical approach.

Your beginning steps to getting your ex boyfriend back is going to take discipline on your part. First off, do not be constantly calling him, that will only annoy him.  Keeping the lines of communication open with a short note or conversation wishing him well is good for now, but don't overdo it. Always be friendly and courteous with him. Stay strong and confident, not clingy, nagging, or demanding. Get out with your friends and let him see you are still standing on your own two feet. Don't play games or try to make him  jealous. This is about you, date others if you want, but do it for yourself, again don't play games, be yourself.

This may look like it is all about you. But remember that you have kept the lines of communication open, have been friendly and courteous to him, and have been yourself. These are a lot of the traits that attracted him to you in the first place. You have planted the seeds to get your boyfriend back and it is now time to get them to grow.