If YOU are one of the ladies who've done well recovering from all the pain and anguish of a break-up, who's now back to living a normal life, then congratulations!

A lot of women have never made it this far and are stuck in a world of negativity and confusion …still thinking about the break-up.

HOWEVER, it's not time to celebrate yet, especially if you strongly believe that the relationship can still be re-built back to its old passionate state.

If the question I've mentioned above bugs you a lot and is still unanswered, let me give you one stern warning about getting back to your ex boyfriend:

You MUST and NEED to forget about all the advice on getting back to your ex boyfriend that you've seen in movies, pocketbooks, novels, and even from well-meaning friends BUT with totally wrong advice.

Your life isn't some fictional novel! You NEED real advice for this real-life situation of getting your ex boyfriend back.

“Whoa! You're asking me to forget a lot of stuff!” you might be saying. I do and for a good reason. Getting your ex boyfriend back is a serious and delicate business. Get the steps right and he'll back at you in record time…BUT get the steps wrong and you'll ruin your chances at the relationship for good.

So where do you switch for advice?

Right here – as I'll be laying down a couple of counter-intuitive tips on getting your back ex boyfriend.

Now these tips aren't some theories or might-be's cooked up by someone who know nothing about getting your ex boyfriend back. It came from years of experience with hundreds of women finding it to be extremely helpful.

Lastly, a reminder: the strategy to getting your ex boyfriend back is to do things that appeal to men in a good way and most of these things are unexpected from a woman.

There you have it – you need to do the unexpected and use the element of surprise in getting your ex boyfriend back.

Getting Your ex Boyfriend Back – Surprising Step 1

Go ahead and talk to him. Better yet, send him a simple and straightforward message either it be a text or voice.

Men have been culturally brought up to think that they should be the one to make the first move in a relationship and in getting back.

Sending a message NOT only takes him by surprise BUT also shows that you're one emotionally stable and independent lady who knows how to put the bad things behind and ready to start your life again.

Getting Your ex Boyfriend Back – Surprising Step 2

Ask him out and go to places you used to go to. And to add to this excellent combination, do things that you both enjoyed together.

This gives you an opportunity to show your ex how much you've changed, how much you've improved from your previous self.

Not to mention it will serve as a very effective reminder of what he's missing by staying out of a relationship you both could enjoy and grow old with.

Getting Your ex Boyfriend Back – Surprising Step 3

Go out and DATE someone else.

Did I mention these steps are surprising and uncommon?

This gives you 2 benefits you shouldn't be without when getting your ex boyfriend back:

1. Dating someone else will boost your confidence and ego which is attractive.

2. Your ex boyfriend will be green-eyed and will stay around to make sure that “someone” won't even have a chance of stealing you from him.

That's what we're after when thinking about getting your ex boyfriend back, don't you think?