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How To Start Conversation

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You can put all that behind you with you a few easy steps. Starting a conversation is not difficult if you know how to do it...

1. Consider what you want from the conversation

Often this will just be small talk on a social level, but it may also be something like a date, a new job or to sort out your finances. The latter examples are a little more tricky than the first, admittedly, but you can do it!

2. Plan what you want to say

People often feel a little easier in their minds if they have a bit of a script worked out in advance. The thing to remember with a script, though - is to make it just a few sentences to get you over the initial trauma of opening your mouth and speaking that first time in a new situation. Any more than that and you will sound false.

Right, so you know what you want to get out of the conversation and you have a little script worked out for the first few sentences, Let's see how that works in practice when it comes to the conversation.

3. Relax!

Breath slowly and make yourself aware of your breathing. Concentrate on just your breathing for a few seconds and you should feel some of the tension you are feeling begin to ease up.

4. Smile!

If you can stop gritting your teeth long enough to smile, people will be likely to smile back. Yes, this sounds like obvious advice but is well worth repeating.

5. Listen well

Listening always helps you in conversations. It will show you when others have finished speaking so you know where to come in and if you listen well you will also pick up clues about what you could say.

6. Introduce Yourself

When you feel comfortable, say 'Hello, my name is ____' if the other people do not know you. That will also give you some breathing space as the other people will probably go on to introduce themselves to you in return - if their Moms have taught them good manners!

Try to remember names and use them in the conversation when talking to people. They will like that and they will warm to you. The more they warm to you, the nicer they will be to you and the better you will feel. Using names is a simple trick but it really works wonders in getting a conversation off on the right foot.

7. Make a Thoughtful Comment

You will probably find it easier at first to talk by making a comment on a more substantial contribution that someone else has already made in the conversation. Make your comment positive or constructive, not negative or condemning. Tell the other person you agree with them or add an example which illustrates the point that they have just made and supports it etc.

You will soon be accepted as part of the conversation and the person you backed up will feel you are an ally and will back you up in return. You have arrived!

8. Offer a Different Opinion

Of course, you can disagree with the person in your comment too - we are all entitled to our opinion! But be aware that disagreeing is likely to focus more attention on you. If you are ready for that - great! If not, hang back a little from expressing an opposing opinion.

9. Be Polite

Whatever comment you make - be polite. That sounds so obvious, but you would be amazed how many people get carried away in the heat of a conversation and snap at anyone who dares to disagree with them.

10. Share New Ideas

Are you feeling braver yet? If you are listening well to the conversation, and you should be, there will be ideas that come into your mind. Just put one of those ideas out there and see what people think of it.

That is it! You have done it! You have learned how to start a conversation.

How To Start Conversation

It is not surprising many people do not know how to start a conversation. As little children we were taught the very basic rule for safety: Never talk to strangers. The rule does not apply to us adults anymore, yet studies show that the second greatest social fear is starting and carrying a conversation with strangers.

Often times, we find it horrifying to be trapped in front of a stranger or even to people we have already met once or twice or numerous times. It is one of those social horrors and almost all of us have been there. We want to start a meaningful conversation. We want to break the silence. But we find starting a conversation a nerve wracking task. Here are simple techniques for starting a conversation. The following have been tested and are found to have brought the first rule of childhood to a close.

1. Start with the introduction basics. It is the basic conversation starter and we must remember to do it right.

-A younger person is introduced to an older person.

-A man is introduced to a woman.

-A less important person is introduced to a VIP.

Say the name of the person who is older, the woman and the VIP - in that order.

2. Make it a skill to remember names. Nothing is more embarrassing than getting caught trying to remember a name of a person who had been introduced to you several times. Here are some helpful tips to recall names:

a. Listen as the person gives you his/her name.

b. Study the business card of the person to help implant the name in your memory.

c. Repeat it several times during the first few minutes of the conversation.

d. Use it when you introduce the person to others.

e. On another note, it is vital that you use the name of the person as you make your rounds to say good-bye to everyone you met.

3. Look around you for things to talk about. Is there something familiar around, a painting, the jar, decors on the wall? These are good things to start a conversation with. But, if the place is so plain with no interesting background, try the food or the drinks as starting point.

4. Polish up your conversational style. Get updated with the latest hottest news - they provide good conversation starters. Even the latest in celebrity gossip or a piece of sensationalist scandal can break the ice. It is also still best to have current affairs and general knowledge at hand, because you just do not know the interests of the people that you will meet.

5.Bring your own conversation piece. Conversation pieces are things you can bring to a gathering or on a get-together where you believe you have less or no acquaintances at all. You could wear eye catching accessories like hats or jewelry that will catch the attention of other people, but make sure you have a story that goes with it. Sometimes it pays to be interesting.

6. Weave newcomers into the conversation. Introduce a person who joins in the group as soon as possible. Or allow the person ample opportunity to do so, as the case maybe. Make a quick review of the topic of the group for the benefit of the newcomer. Then ask a comment or an opinion from them.

7. Ask open-ended questions. Often times we are faced with one-word answers - yes and no. If you are the kind who is not yet comfortable in starting a conversation, this would be very disappointing. Always have two or three open-ended questions or statements reserved at all times.

8. Assume responsibility for starting a conversation, a simple hi! or how are you? are simple starters. Make sure that people will remember you after the event by their knowledge of fun they have shared with you.

Enjoy, all your efforts will pay off and soon to start a conversation will be as easy as breathing the air around.

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