All is fair in love and war they say, so when it comes to getting the ex-boyfriend back, pull out all the stops, damn the torpedoes and full speed ahead. Start by making a list of all the reasons you want to have that wonderful guy back in your life. This list will serve as motivation when the going gets rough, so make sure it is complete. Kind of a "how do I love thee- let me count the ways" list of all those little things that he has or does that make you certain he is the one.

Now don't post it in clear view, because if the plan works he's going to come calling before to long and you don't want him to see it. No, don't post it - just tuck it under the pillow to review each night or into your purse to read over lunch at your desk. This list will help you visualize all the things that will follow your plan to get him back. We all know how important visualizing what you want is, right?

Next, get your self up and out of those "stay at home" clothes and right out to the mall ASAP because the next step of the plan is to re-beautify yourself. I say re- beautify because you already are beautiful, or you would not have gotten him the first time. Now is the time to refresh your look, because let's face it, when we are pining away for someone we have lost, we tend to let things go a bit.

All this doesn't have to cost a lot, just a couple of drop-dead outfits to wear when implementing the part of your plan that includes running into him. You really need to look great when you "accidentally" happen to meet him. You'll want great hair too, so ring up that favorite hair dresser and get over there for a new "do". You still want to be recognizable so don't shave your head or anything too bizarre, but you do want to be a new and different you. A change of style or color or just some highlights should do the job quite well. A bit of mystery will go a long way to making him wonder what you've been doing while he's been gone and why you look so great.

OK, you're looking good, got the new "do" and the new outfit, so the next step is to call all your buddies to be on the look out. They need to investigate and see what he's up to, where he's going and what he's doing there. Once they find him, have them give you a call with all the details they can get. Who, what, where, when and how long. You'll probably soon see that he's going to the same places and doing the same things, since that's how most humans operate. Habit is a natural fact that will help you with your plan. He'll keep up with his habits, and as you know, you used to be one of those habits.

Maybe he's golfing a lot. Well, you golf don't you? If you don't, I bet they have private lessons at the golf course he goes to that happen to start just about the time he tees off. Maybe he's running now, at the park every morning at 7. You do own some nice running clothes don't you? Maybe he has been playing cards at the casino every Saturday night for a month. Well, get your self down to the casino and get in the game.

After you start to see your ex more frequently, whether it be because you just happen to run into them or you are trying to participate in the same activities, you can spark conversations. Try to discuss how much the two of you have in common, but do not go overboard. One of the main reasons that you and your ex broke up might have been because you did not have enough in common. Usually, after a break up, this is when we find out how much we actually have in common. Remind this person of what they are missing and keep them wanting more. Keep repeating these meetings and you will see that they will come crawling back for more.