Let's say you've placed second in a weight loss competition, will you be happy and try to do better the next time or will you be disheartened and make an excuse not to do it at the next opportunity?
In your lifetime, you're given many choices. You can opt to go the way of a pessimist and have a life filled with defeat or you can take the high road of an optimist and have a life filled with challenges and fulfillment.
So what are good reasons to nurture an optimist's viewpoint? And what are the reasons to make changes now?
Studies have shown that optimism goes hand-in-hand with moods that are positive as well as excellent morale. This applies to academics, occupations, athletics, politics, military success, good health, popularity and even to injury avoidance and longevity.
On the opposite side, pessimism and depression rates are at an all time high. Depression affects age groups from middle aged folks to teenagers. The age when depression first shows up has dropped from 30 to 15. Depression is not just a middle age disorder any longer but has become a disorder which affects teens too.
What does research show is the payoff to being an optimist?
The typical optimist's expectation is for only the best to happen. Pessimists usually expect events which are bad to last a long duration as well as to weaken everything they may do. They tend to blame themselves for these bad events.
The same bad luck events of the world face the optimists as well. The difference is their explanation of the misfortune...it's always 180 degrees different from a pessimist. Optimists believe any defeat is only a minor set back and whatever the cause it's a one-time case.
As well, optimists will focus on a plan for the current "problem" by utilizing a technique called "positive re-interpretation". Using this, they will re-interpret something negative in such a way so as to provide a learning and growing experience. Optimists are unbothered by negative happenings, seeing them as challenges and opportunities to try even harder.
The optimist will not utter stuff like: "Things won't get better"; "Since I failed one time, I will fail again"; and "If something bad happened in one segment of my life, it will carry through into my total life."
Optimists' positive expectations also provide smooth transitions to new situations, unexpected tragedy and sudden turns in events. An optimist will stand up if they fall and keep going. Obstacles become opportunities.
Optimists usually draw positive responses from people.
Optimists don't need others as much to stay happy. They are more independent. They don't need to manipulate or control people. People are usually drawn to them. An optimist's view of everything is contagious and can influence all those around them.
Optimism is a desirable social trait in every community. Optimists who share their traits are greatly accepted whereas those that spread panic, gloom, and hysteria are mis-treated and disliked.
In today's world, optimists are those that will win an election; win congeniality votes and be sought after for personal advice.
When and if the going starts getting tough, the optimist will get even tougher.
Optimists maintain a much higher level of well-being during stressful times than people that are not as optimistic. To contrast, a pessimist is more likely to deny that the stressful event even exists or try to avoid dealing with the problem entirely. A pessimist is most likely to stop trying when any difficult situation arises.
An optimist perseveres and doesn't give in easily...they are known for an abundance of patience. They inch towards their goals and dreams one step at a time.
Optimists live longer and enjoy better health
Medical researchers have shown that a positive attitude and outlook as well as elementary pleasures can bring about measurable increases in the ability of one's body to attack diseases.
An optimist's health is uncommonly good. The aging process is kind to them...keeping them freer than most from the typical negative ills that come with middle age. And the bonus is to outlive the ones prone to negativity.
So the question is, "Why would you not be an optimist right now?" Start thinking positively while obtaining a more satisfying and fulfilling life.
Find success in all your accomplishments. Be more resilient. When you hit a low spot sometimes, don't stay down. Lift yourself up and improve your chances of getting back on the right track. And you may want to inspire negative folks to take off their dark glasses so they can see the bright side of life.
Leading Life Changing Small Groups
"Change happens in an instant, it happens the moment you decide to change." We are designed to grow or die; the hard part about a job is that it can become so daily. Allyson Lewis, author of The Seven Minute Difference: Small Steps to Big Changes encourages everyone to make a decision to grow and change. Here are seven life changing alternatives to taking a career break.
1. Rekindle the passion for your current job. Many of us need to rediscover what our driving purpose in life is. Take out a sheet of paper and set a kitchen timer for seven minutes and complete the following statement, "My purpose in life is..." Purpose is what we do for others. Often our daily dissatisfaction occurs because we have become focused on the daily issues and we have lost sight of how our personal gifts and talents can impact the world of our co-workers, our employees and our customers.
2. Align your work with your purpose. Before making any drastic decisions, recognize that all jobs are jobs - what makes each job different is how much it allows you to align your job requirements with your personal purpose. My personal purpose in life is accomplished by "Growing" and "Helping others Grow." My personal mission is to educate and motivate. What about your job made you feel called to your current position?
3. Close the "Open Loops". "Open loops" are all of the things you need to do to run your family that add stress to your life..."My tires need rotating, I need to schedule that dentist appointment, the bills need to be paid, the light fixture needs to be fixed, etc." Many of us have 25 maybe 30 "open loops" - take an hour and write all of them on one sheet of paper. The simple act of writing them down will give you control over them and if you set a goal of crossing off only one per day, in just a month you will have finished many of the overwhelming "stressors" in your life. Close these loops and you may find your work life improves.
4. ?AIR.? When was the last time you really took the time to dream about all of the positive things you could bring to your current job? We are all so busy with overbooked schedules, emails and meetings; it is no wonder the pressure is overwhelming. In my book, I call this giving yourself permission to add "AIR" into your life. Sometimes we are all so busy with the daily-ness of life we can barely breathe. If you can't even breathe, how can you possibly find time to dream and appreciate how you can make a difference in your current work place? If you will schedule "AIR" into your work and home schedule - you will dramatically improve how you feel.
5. Bring joy to those around you. If you are having dissatisfaction in your career it is likely that others are also feeling the same pressure. We all spend eight to ten hours in our jobs. Make a decision to improve the lives of those who work with you. Write a thank you note to your boss; leave a note of encouragement on a co-worker's desk. Cook a huge Crock-pot full of chili for your team. When we are the person instigating positive change in our work place, often we benefit the most.
6. Believe. The smallest acts can make the largest impacts on your work life. We call these tiny decisions "micro-actions". Rather than deciding to change jobs (a drastic decision) focus on the "micro-actions" (tiny steps). Re-think your work place goals - where do you want to be in three years? Create a written daily plan of action, increase your personal competency by reading 10 pages of a book every day, set a timetable to improve your understanding of technology - or even set personal "micro-actions" to write two thank you notes per day, increase the amount of water you drink or add one serving of fruit to your diet. If you can believe that you can make these tiny changes in your life, then day by day you may find yourself glad you stayed in your current job.
7. Decide. "Change happens in an instant, it happens the moment you decide to change." Too often we look outside to find answers to our internal dissatisfaction. If you want to be different, decide to be different. Rediscover your purpose, align your work with your purpose, close the "open loops", add "AIR" to your schedule, bring joy to those around you, believe and decide. Change happens in an instant, and takes a lifetime. Enjoy.
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