It's something not very often talked about and applies to all areas of everyone's lives, from the moment you set foot in a store, to dating the cute stranger you met last weekend. Backwards rationalization to put it simply is whereupon you come to a logical conclusion in your brain based on your emotional state, essentially rationalizing emotional choices with logical reasoning.
If you've ever been in sales you've probably heard of backwards rationalization before, its an often used sales tactic to get a customer emotionally committed to buying an item even if logically they do not need it. This way when someone emotionally wants something you'll often see them rationalizing with them self, thinking up reasons why they do need the item, and ignoring the reasons they don't. On the other hand, if someone doesn't emotionally like something even if they really need it they'll often talk themselves out of buying it. Which is precisely why sales people exist in the world, not to help people make rational choices (as they can do that on their own by simply browsing) but to emotionally sway them so they logically convince themselves they need something.
This habit of backwards rationalization is also in full force in relationships. It's been seen and evidenced hundreds of times that the reason why one person likes or stays with another has little to nothing to do with logic, even though it often appears as though it is. Its funny experiment that you take a girl and get her to date 2 different guys. One guy is naturally good with women and the other guy is a bit of a creep. Now they go into a restaurant to get something to eat and 2 key events occur, the guys both open the door for the girl and pull her chair out for her to be able to sit down, and they both tease and make jokes of the girl at the dinner table. Now what's amazing is often after this date the girl will feel more attracted to the natural guy and repelled by the creepy weird guy. As such the girl backwards rationalizes this with logic, with the guy she's attracted too she thinks of how sweet he is opening the door and pulling out her chair for her and completely ignores the teasing at the dinner table, however with the creepy guy she does the complete opposite, ignoring the door opening and remembering the teasing, claiming that is the reason why she dislikes this guy.
Of course this also applies to guys, and its a really peculiar facet of human intelligence. It is also the key to understanding relationships, and that what you logically do in a relationship has little to no bearing on the outcome, for if the other person emotionally adores you they are only going to think of the good and forget the bad, and vice versa.
So how does this help you out in life? We'll once you become consciously aware of why you are doing certain things you can begin to resist people trying to emotionally manipulate you and realize that many decisions you are making are actually due to your emotional state rather than logic. In the short term most people generally do things based on their current emotional state and although this brings short term pleasure it can and will often harm you in the long run.
This isn't to say don't trust your emotions however, there are many times where you may chose to go with your intuition, say you get a bad feeling about someone, they rub you the wrong way or just feel like they are hiding something. Often this is your subconcious's way of telling you it picks up on something they are hiding and feeding it back to you through your emotions and it should be duly noted. This is of prime importance in the business world where it has been witnessed many times of sneaky business men attempting to lure someone into a contract or spending money raising a business based around flawed business models (such as pyramid schemes) by giving them plenty of emotional pleasure with vivid images of huge mansions, luxury yachts and trips around the world, then letting the target know how terrible and painful it would be to work their current job instead of jumping aboard this new bandwagon, often times confusing the target and getting them to sign up to deals based on their emotional state rather than logical decision making.
Don't go away feeling increased pressure to suppress your emotions today, for they will help you out many times in your life in certain situations. The key is to not simply run on emotions and realize that it's best to think about a problem logically, then use your emotions (how do you feel about it) and make a decision based on both ways of thinking, which will (provided your not using a balanced amount of emotional and logical thinking) provide you with the correct answer at least 95% of the time.
Love To Hate You
Destructive chewing is a serious problem. Not only can it create a financial burden to you, it can actually be dangerous for your dog.
The phrase “destructive chewing" might sound redundant, because – by its very nature! – most chewing is destructive. Your pup has powerful jaws full of sharp, pointy teeth: just about anything she sets out to chew on is likely going to show the effects of it inside of a minute. So just to clarify, if I use the phrase “destructive chewing", I’m talking of inappropriate chewing: the kind of chewing that’s centered on your possessions and household items, instead of on your dog’s own designated toys and chews.
The three main reasons why dogs chew:
- Many dogs have a natural want to chew. It’s amusing, it passes the time, and it’s a self-rewarding, self-reinforcing game (for example, if she’s chewing on something that tastes good.)
- Chewing allows for a nervous, bored, or solitary dog with an outlet for your dog's emotions. To an anxious dog, the repetitive act of chewing is relaxing – it’s the puppy equivalent of comfort food.
- Underexercised dogs often use chewing as a method of using up nervous energy and granting themselves something to do.
- How to preclude destructive chewing -
Dogs are utterly capable of learning not to chew your belongings – you just have to put in a bit of effort first, that’s all.
1. Take command of the situation: take care of your own possessions. Your first step should be to dog-proof your home. Even if you own the best-behaved pup in the world, there’s still no cause to test her self-control – after all, dogs explore the world with their mouths.
Dog-proofing your house means taking whatever you don’t want to end up in her mouth, and making it unavailable. Consider your dog's size and agility when deciding if something’s out of reach: can your dog jump? Can she climb, or leap onto something else to reach the desired object? How tall is she when standing on her hind legs?
All too common targets in the home include magazines, eyeglasses, clothes, shoes, garbage, and small crunchy appliances like remote controls, cameras, and cell phones.
It should go without saying that all food has to be put securely away: don’t leave snacks on low tables (or even countertops – you’d be amazed how acrobatic she can be when there’s food at stake!), put all food into containers or the pantry. Rinse your dirty plates clean of any food scraps before leaving them by the sink.
2. Prevent her from learning the joys of illegal chewing. The more times your dog manages to snatch a jawful of a forbidden substance – a chair-leg, a pillow, a running shoe – the more readily your dog will target those items in the future. If you can prevent her from chewing your stuff in the first place, it’s a lot easier for her to realize what you expect of your dog. Practically speaking, this means keeping your dog in a dog-proofed area until you’re confident of her understanding of the house rules.
3. Don’t set your dog up for failure by confusing the boundaries between her stuff (OK to chew) and your stuff (not OK to chew). Don’t give your dog old clothes, shoes, or towels to chew and play with: realistically, you can’t possibly expect your dog to be able to tell the difference between your current shoes and the one your dog's got in her mouth that you gave her five minutes ago.
4. Provide her with tons of tasty alternatives to your stuff. If her environment is relatively barren of attractive, appropriate chewing objects, you can hardly blame your dog for targeting your possessions. Keep in mind, many dogs need to chew; if she’s an adolescent (under three years) or a puppy (under one year), your dog's needs will be even more noticeable. Go on a toy and chew shopping spree, then give your dog two or three to play with at a time. Alternating the available toys every 1 or 2 days will keep things new and interesting for your dog.
5. Spend much time in active supervision. Yes, it might be easier for you to just keep her penned up in her doghouse, kennel, or the yard – but that’s boring and horrible for your dog, and hardly much fun for you either (if you wanted a pet that you don’t need to interact with, you’d have gotten a goldfish, right?) Your dog can’t learn what you expect of her if your dog's spending all her time contained in the dog-proof zone: your dog needs the opportunity to explore the boundaries of your expectations, so she can comprehend what’s okay and what’s not.
6. Whenever you catch your dog chewing something inappropriate, interrupt her by making a loud noise: clap your hands or make an “Ah-ah-aaaah!" noise. Then, immediately hand her a yummy and dog-appropriate alternative (a rawhide bone or other chew toy); as soon as her jaws close around it, praise her lavishly. There is no better way to get your dog to understand that chewing “your dog's" toys equals praise from you, but all else equals trouble.
- Maintain a productive attitude -
Above all, remember to keep your expectations sensible. You’re not ideal, and neither is your dog: there’s probably at least one incident where a cherished item is damaged by your dog's curiosity.
Particularly in the early stages of your relationship, your dog's still learning the ropes: it’ll take awhile before your dog's completely reliable (and even then, if your dog's left by herself for too long or feels neglected, your dog may choose your stuff over hers to occupy her time and jaws with.) Remember to give her time to learn the rules, and plenty of ‘you-time’ to help her learn faster – and don’t forget to take precautions and keep things out of reach until she’s got the hang of the chewing rules!
Both Solace Swanson & 3dogs are contributors for EditorialToday. The above articles have been edited for relevancy and timeliness. All write-ups, reviews, tips and guides published by EditorialToday.com and its partners or affiliates are for informational purposes only. They should not be used for any legal or any other type of advice. We do not endorse any author, contributor, writer or article posted by our team.
3dogs has sinced written about articles on various topics from . For more information on dog training secrets and how to deal with problem dog behavior (like chewing), visit SitStayFetch. It’s the best m. 3dogs's top article generates over 60500 views. Bookmark 3dogs to your Favourites.
Aloe Vera Irritable Bowel Syndrome Furthermore, foods low in saturated fat do not trigger an irritable bowel to the same degree as saturated fats. Natural products like aloe vera also have their part to play