I have been married long enough to learn a few things. Some of the lessons I have learned have come from doing things right, but the vast majority of the lessons I've learned from marriage have come from areas that I've completely failed in. I share my mistakes with men in hopes that they will not have to make the same mistakes for themselves. Perhaps one of the biggest mistakes that I made during the first years of my marriage was that I didn't take my wife out on a single date. I'm serious. It was many years after we had been married before I thought to take my wife on a date.
So, men, my advice to you is simple: date your wives! Perhaps you are better than me and you never stopped taking your wife on dates like you used to before you got married. Congratulations! I wish someone had taught me to do the same thing. I wish someone had been around to tell me that marrying your wife does not mean that you've completely won her and that you will never have to do anything to win her love again. Or I wish that someone had told me that the point of the whole thing was never to win her heart by marrying her and then never win her heart again. Oh how helpful it would have been to know that winning and keeping the heart of your wife takes time, effort, and a few special dates here and there. My first years of marriage would have been easier and better had I known these simple things.
I think my wife nearly had a heart attack on the day that I asked her to go on a date with me that Friday night, and I guess that I shouldn't have been so surprised by her surprise. For a brief moment she looked at me like she was looking at a stranger. It had really taken her off guard that I had thought to date her and then planned it well in advance. One of her favorite bands was playing in a city nearby and I bought us tickets, got a babysitter, and invited her on a dinner and concert date. I cannot tell you how much my wife loved being loved by me in that way. All night long she glowed like a woman who knew deeply that she was being loved.
Since that first date I have made a commitment to take my wife on at least two dates per month. Sometimes I plan extravagant dates and we dress up and go out dancing and to a fancy dinner. Other times we head to our favorite bookstore, order coffees and look at magazines and books together. Some of my favorite dates are the simple ones, the ones where we know that nothing matters as much as just being together.
So, men, whether you have been married for three months or for thirty-three years, make it a habit to invite your wife out on dates. She will be so glad you did, and so will you.
Men Not To Date
Studies in a certain university show that forty five percent of men at one time had been in dating multiple girls and was in a relationship wherein they and their dating partners is free to date other people.
On the other hand, almost all girls are not comfortable with their steady dates seeing other girls. A fact is, girls are jealous individuals and infidelity is never accepted.
According to psychologists, a relationship helps one to understand and discover one's self more deeply and learn how to interact more effectively with others; being in several relationships enables one to learn more.
Dating multiple girls can without a doubt give rise to uncomfortable and risky situations and can be a great strain. That is why one should think twice before doing it, or else, be totally prepared of whatever consequences that will result from your actions.
One reason why men date multiple girls is that to them, there is no ?Miss Perfect?. It is by dating multiple girls that men can delight in each unique individuality that every girl brings. To some men, this is an excellent approach wherein one can discover their likes and dislikes from girls and relationships.
You get to know each person well and then you get to choose!
Dating multiple girls can be really worth it once men are truly sure about the girls that they want to spend some time dating and importantly, if the girl that they are dating agrees that their dating is not mutually limited to each other. Simply put, being honest can save one from a lot of stress when dating multiple girls.
The man should set things clear from the very start by letting the girl know that they should not be entirely committed to each other and that he still wants to date other girls; this sets the record straight and keeps both of you from trouble.
However men has to keep in mind that this kind of arrangement has to work both ways; the girl that you are dating, is free to date other men as well. Then if are uncomfortable with this, or even insecure about the situation, then you should only commit to date only one girl.
Having a commitment with a girl one has everything that there is to gain. However, when you are unsure, never expect the girl to understand you.
Keep in mind that you should only date multiple girls for the reason that you simply must and never do it for the reason that this can be an exciting game to play or to boost your ego. The emotions and consequences are more than enough to exercise so much caution when dating multiple girls is concerned.
On the other hand, should you decide on being a player, there is one simple and considerate thing to do and that is setting your own rules and making it known to each girl that you are dating right from the start. If she accepts this, then good for you. If not, then find another one. Simple. You don't have to be a snake and lie and worst, play on the girls emotions.
When you are not yet ready for a commitment or still in the process of finding the right girl for you, then casual dating of multiple girls is never wrong. As a matter of fact, it can be an intelligent decision. You are able to know a lot of girls, learn their behaviors and know if they are compatible with you and your life style. Just be honest and tell them exactly what you feel and what you want, so that there will be no need for you to sneak and no hearts will be broken.
Along the way, you might find the right girl that will stand out from among the rest. Then when you are ready, it is better to go ahead and spend some time with her exclusively. You don not want to loose her do you?
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