Amazing, sudden and shocked are good things when it comes to a marriage proposal - if you are the recipient. They are not always good descriptions for the person doing the proposing. To give the feeling of a spontaneous event does not necessarily mean that you cannot plan for it. Have you ever been to a surprise birthday party? The surprise is intended for the birthday person, but it still takes a great deal of planning to assure that the desired effect will occur when they enter the room. It may seem spontaneous for the person, but the party-goers probably were aware of the party for some time before the actual event. What would happen if no planning had occurred and everyone were left to come at anytime they pleased? What if no one planned for getting the person out the house; how would the stage be set? These are exactly why people put forth the planning to assure that the only surprise is on the face the person whom the party was planned.When thinking about a marriage proposal, you can use this same philosophy. The spontaneous factor for the recipient is not determined by your lack of planning, but more by the amount of planning that enables the perfect stage for their amazement. When you plan the proposals appropriately, you can be assured that your mate will give you your desire response - astonishment, joy, and a “Yes."