I love to write. I have found that writing forces me to examine myself, to figure out what is most important to me. Maybe it's the act of putting my feelings down on paper. Somehow it seems more permanent. I guess I feel that if I am going to go to all of the trouble to write something down, it should be something worthwhile.
When you hit your mid 40's you begin to think about different things that you did when you were in your twenties and thirties (Not to mention your teens!). I recently begin to wonder how I would be remembered. How would my kids think about me and talk about me after I was gone? Would the things I believe in and stood for be passed on to them?
Over the next several days, I will try and give you my thoughts on the life lessons I have tried to teach my kids.
One of the strangest things I have noticed over the past several years is that life is much more serious than in the past. It seems as if people are just tenser. It's almost like people have just forgotten how to be just a bit goofy and silly.
With all of the pressures in life, it is sometimes easy to forget all of the joy and happiness that is around us.
In our house, we have made it a rule that some serious silliness can happen at any moment. The other night a couple of my kids were in the other room wrestling and carrying on. The problem was that I didn't think they were being loud enough for the neighbors down the street to hear.
I threw the dish towel aside and run into the living room with my hands waving frantically over my head and screaming my own rendition of a war cry. Suddenly my kids were screaming in delight as I pounced on the group and the tickle wars began. Within minutes my wife and oldest son were bounding down the stairs and jumping into the fray. For the next twenty minutes or so it was pure chaos in my house, and I could not have been any happier.
That night as I lay in bed reflecting on the day's events, I realized how important to teach our kids how to have fun. Let the rest of the world teach them how to be serious, one of our job as parents is to crank up the fun and to teach them how to enjoy every precious minute of their lives. Isn't having fun part of being a kid?
Ways To Have Fun At Work
Your wedding ceremony and reception are not intended to be exercises in expert planning and execution, but celebrations of your new life as a married couple. It's easy to lose sight of the day's meaning in the clutter of so many preparations. Here are a few suggestions that will help you enjoy your wedding reception ?
1.Get a good night's sleep the night before.
Try to plan a day of rest by having everything done two days before the wedding, including your rehearsal dinner. Don't stay up late addressing party favors or making place cards the night before your wedding. Recharge your batteries by taking a day to breathe and relax while doing regular activities you enjoy.
2. Don't drink too much (or at all) during the day.
If you're going to drink on your wedding day, wait until you arrive at the hall. Be sure to eat something, too.
3. Wear or bring comfortable shoes.
The bride, groom and bridal party should choose great-fitting and low-heeled shoes for the gala affair; or bring a second pair of shoes or slippers that make their feet happy -- especially while dancing.
4. Plan an exit strategy.
Ask responsible friends and family members to help you by assigning them end-of-the-night duties, such as removing decorations, taking gifts to a pre-determined destination and settling up with the hall. Parents and trustworthy friends are often asked to handle the latter.
5.Let people come to you.
Don't feel compelled to ?hang out? with everyone. Once you've finished greeting friends and family during the receiving line or visited with them at their tables, you no longer need to keep them company. Guests will come to you, particularly while you're on the dance floor.
6. Relax. Don't sweat the small stuff.
Hundreds of details have been planned. How and when they are carried out is mostly out of your control. Let go of things that are not in your power to change. When your best-laid plans go awry, keep things in perspective. Remember that this is one moment of many in a day, and one day of your life. Your sense of humor is your second best friend on your wedding day.
7. Trust your DJ.
If everyone isn't on the dance floor by the second song, don't start to panic. You can't rush the party. A great DJ knows how to handle a reluctant crowd and build momentum with the music. Give him some space to do his job, and your patience will be rewarded.
8. Don't compare: Every party is different.
Don't compare your wedding reception with others that you have attended. Each party has its own personality based on a variety of factors. Day-to-day events at home, school, work or in the news can all affect the energy level of the room. Allow your reception to take on its own identity and you'll enjoy it more (and so will your guests!).
9. Spend time with your new husband.
A couple can spend so much time apart at their reception, working the room with a ?divide and conquer? mindset, that they often forget the day is meant for them. Memories of your wedding reception ought to include moments shared with your new spouse that aren't
staged by a photographer. Make your togetherness a priority, and you'll save yourself a lifetime of regrets.
10. Dance.
Above all, have a great time at your party. Eat, socialize and meet your spouse on the dance floor. Your fun mood is contagious, and guests will follow your lead.
About the Author
Mike Staff is the owner of Mike Staff Productions (http://www.mikestaff.com), an award winning Wedding DJ, Entertainment and Videography Company located in metropolitan Detroit, Michigan. Mike is also a well known Detroit radio personality, having spent over 14 years on-the-air at one of Detroit's most popular music stations, 101-FM WRIF.
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