strongest yet the most subtle of all. It is too subtle that sometimes even the abused partner does not notice it. This kind



of abuse leaves no identifying physical evidence, yet leaves a lasting mark to the abused person's self esteem.

Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse may be described as subjecting a partner consistently to insult, embarrassment, scorn, shame or hurt.

Emotional abuse may manifest itself in many different forms: from something as simple as mocking a partner for their beliefs

or faith, or telling them nobody wants or likes them; to something as demeaning as telling a partner that he's worthless; to

the extent of threatening to hurt a partner or their family. People subjected to emotional abuse are constantly accused and

criticized, and often faulted for every little thing they do.

Domineering partners use emotional abuse to control, degrade, humiliate, or punish a partner to submission. This is

comparable to how prison guards manipulate prisoners of war being cooperative. They use isolation to cut off any form of

external support from friends and family, making victims dependent to the abusers. Abusers also use threats and intimidation

to force a partner to submission. Abusive partners use negative criticism to demean a partner about his appearance, actions,

and abilities.

Victims of emotional abuse often manifest the following symptoms:

.Depression.

.Fearfulness

.Withdrawal.

.Social isolation

.Suicidal tendency

.Feeling of guilt and shame

Because partners are constantly exposed to ideas of being worthless, they start believing the lies over time and tend to

develop low self-esteem and eventually develop the symptoms mentioned above.

Abusive relationships usually cycle around 4 phases:

Phase 1, tension building. This is when the tension begins,communication starts falling apart,and the victim feels an

intense need to please or placate an abuser.

Phase 2, incident. This is when the actual verbal and emotional abuse happens. The abuser starts getting angry, blaming and

arguing with the victim. The abuser threatens and intimidates the victim.

Phase 3, reconciliation. This is when the abuser apologizes for what he's said and done. He passes the blame onto the

victim, denying any abuse he's done, or says that what he did wasn't that bad as the victim thinks it is.

Phase 4, calm. This is when the incident is forgotten. The relationship is at peace, and no abuse is being done to the

victim.

Resolving emotional abuse

In a relationship, both partners should learn to say when enough is enough. An abusive environment is never good for

both parties, especially for the children. Children who grew up in an abusive domestic environment tend to carry this

behaviour when he has his own family. As parents, it is necessary to work on resolving emotional abuse issues as early as

possible before it destroys the entire family. Of course it is natural for an emotionally abusive partner to decline to

undergo counseling, denying the fact the he is subjecting his partner to such abuse. However, for the good of everybody in

the family, certain steps must be taken to stop the abuse.

.Counseling. Both partners need to talk to a trusted therapist or counsellor to discuss the origin or the reason behind the

abusive behaviour.Counseling also helps regain trust, confidence, and self-esteem.

.Trial separation. Some time away from each other to understand the importance of each partner in the relationship is

sometimes helpful to make the abuser aware of his mistakes.

.Divorce. If an abusive partner refuses to acknowledge the fact that he is manipulating and taking advantage of his

partner,it is time to let go of the relationship and start life anew.

Love is supposed to help us grow, not trap us like a prisoner. If you feel like you're being boxed in by an abusive partner,

speak up. It is never ok to let yourself be subjected to so much abuse. It is not advisable to immediately jump into a

divorce, try to work it out first. With the right help, you might still be able to rebuild a happy married life.