It was about 2 years ago when I personally went through a break up with my girlfriend, and it hurt like nothing I have ever experienced before. We both loved each other, but it was a distant relationship and she decided to break it off with me.

I was not prepared for the pain and the flood of emotions that I experienced. Now I can understand how some people do desperate things when faced with a break up. The emotions are just so hard to deal with and even sleeping can be very difficult. This may sound familiar to you if you have been in a broken relationship situation. It's very hard to think straight when you are faced with losing the love of your life.

Eventually we reconciled and got back together. The experience allowed our love to grow even stronger the second time around. We both finally realized that the feelings we had for each other made the relationship worth another try.

We were both in love with each other in our relationship before the break up. What you need to keep in mind is, if there is true love involved then reconciliation is always possible between the two of you.

The emotional stress of a break up can make you want to do some things out of desperation to get your ex back, but you have to keep your cool and think things through before you act. Things that you do out of desperation and panic will usually be the wrong actions and only serve to drive your love farther away from you. You need to take proven steps that are proven to work in this situation.

Here are some proven psychological steps that you can do that can help you reverse a break up at get your love back:

1. Agree with your ex about the break up

By agreeing with your ex you will show that you are strong and not desperate. This reaction to the break up can make you appear more attractive to your ex. Certainly you will appear more attractive than you would if you were constantly pleading with them or trying to cling to them desperately.

2. Stop the frequent communications

After you agree with the break up it is a mistake to continue frequent communications with your ex. This will show them that you are not serious about the agreement and work against your goal. Again, this can drive your ex away from you instead of attracting them back. Stop the text messages and annoying constant phone calls. Give your ex some space, for crying out loud!

3. Make the reconnection after some time.

After a month or so has gone by, you can then go ahead and contact your ex in a calm way. Do not beg them to take you back, or show desperation with this. Just plan an event, or a place where the two of you can have a face to face chat. Don't complicate this by getting all emotional, because that can actually cause your efforts to backfire .

There are some other proven psychological steps that can work for you to get your ex back into your arms. We have only touched on a few here. This article does not cover all the fine details that you will need to know. There are still more things that you will need to do in between the steps given here to have the best results.