It is very common that when a break up just happened, a number of people will want to try to salvage the relationship. However, before doing that, it is really important to take control of your own emotion. While it is not easy to do that, it is critical as it will determine whether you will make the right decision.

The first few days after the break up is usually the most emotionally trying period. Therefore, it is very important that during these few days, try to find something to distract you. Here is a few things that you may want to try out to get your emotion under control.

1)Do you have a good buddy, or anyone that you trust? Talk to him or her. Just by pouring yourself in front of one person can make you feel so much better and so much more in control. There is no need to share your woes with too many people.

Perhaps, it may be a bit more difficult for men to talk about their problems. If you do not want to take face to face, you can also consider joining forums or message board on the internet. Usually, there are people there who had suffered the same problem as you before. They will be happy to give you advice.

2)Do you like sports? Any sports can help you to relieve your tension. You can choose sports that you can do by yourself or you can drag a few friends along.

3)Realize that you are not alone in this situation. Sometimes, just this realization alone can make you feel much better. Perhaps, it is normal for people to think they are the only one with this problem.

After getting your emotional state under control, your mind should be much clearer now. Now is the time to ask yourself this question, "Should I get back together with my ex?" Think very carefully, Don't lie to yourself. Is reconciliation the best outcome for both of you? Or is it better to break up?

If you still think you want to try and salvage your relationship, you should still give yourself and your partner some more time to cool down before you approach her again, say 2 weeks to 1 month. By then, both of you will be in a better position to talk to each other calmly. This will increase your chances of having a reconciliation.