Social media is redefining the meaning of "friendship" and leaving millions who are craving for connection starving for more.
::::> Welcome to the social media paradox.
For example...
Here's a recent email I got after signing up to Mixx.com recently:
Subject: Someone likes you over at Mixx
xxxx1199 thinks you are a really cool person who knows your way around the web. Check out your new friend's profile: http://www.mixx.com/users/xxxx1199
Sounds like a potentially new "friend", right? So, although I know the game, I still couldn't help but browse over to xxxx1199 (name changed to spare the innocent) and, wow, this guy has a zillion friends!
So much for our blossoming friendship, how could he possibly have time..gees, with all the friends he has already.
OK, that's a bit of an exaggeration but it illustrates the point. A "friend" in the social media sphere is not a friend.
I'm Serious!
Some may think I am making a big deal..trying to stir up a semantic debate or be controversial for the sake of drama.
But no, let me assure you, I am serious.
Primarily because I see this "fake friend" mindset brought on by the mind-numbing proliferation of social media infecting an entire generation of young people.
Obviously, there are millions who have a desire for community building, for being part of a team, for getting input from a group or sharing an affinity for something they like. This desire is as old as humanity.
Until the advent of social media, the way to participate was usually face to face, hand to hand and, sometimes, heart to heart.
Today, you could join hundreds of social media communities without leaving the coffee shop.
The paradox is, although it is easier than ever to be a part of a personal community, once you do so you'll never hear the sound of another person voice, the touch of their hand or feel the emotion in their heart.
Sidenote: But...you may get an email assuring you that you are a "really cool person".
A Challenge To You
This is an important subject, especially to anyone involved in social media marketing, because we have a choice:
Do we contribute to this fake friend revolution or do we genuinely participate?
So, my challenge to you is the following:
1. Don't collect friends like baseball cards.
2. Reply to your friends, fans, admirers and followers...get to know them...listen...heck, give them a call.
3. Don't post thoughtless comments for the sake of a backlink.
4. Offer to do guest articles for each other, or otherwise increase the dialogue.
5. Create a Squidoo or Hubpages site and promote it for a mutual charity.
6. Don't brown nose but compliment aspects of each others site or content that you like.
7. In short... Give your "friends" more than you have been giving them.
I promise to take my own advice and perhaps, with our collective effort, we can chart a better course for social media and create genuine, lasting friendships in the process.
The Social Studies Curriculum
Social anxiety disorder, also known as social phobia, is a kind of mental disorder where the sufferer experiences a severe or unreasonable fear of social gatherings where there is a possibility that one may get embarrassed or ridiculed. Most of the time, these anxieties arise from an intense fear of being closely watched or scrutinized - from the simple things like the way they dress, talk or act; to important job functions like performing in front of a crowd, giving a presentation, or finishing an interview for a job application. This kind of phobia gives sufferers a feeling of being trapped or shut away from the world.
They say social anxiety disorder is closely related to shyness. However social phobia differs in the sense that this disrupts normal socializing functions. It is true that everyone goes through a stage of shyness in their life, overcoming it is a different thing. When it becomes too much that it interrupts your daily life and relationships to the point where you are sick with worry, it is time to seek counsel. It is good to know the signs and symptoms of social anxiety disorder to be able to determine and treat this said condition before it worsens.
People with social phobia manifest 2 basic kinds of symptoms: emotional and physical. The emotional symptoms include: an intense fear of being in situations in which you don't know people, fear of situations in which you may be judged, worrying about embarrassing or humiliating yourself, fear that others will notice that you look anxious, anxiety that disrupts your daily routine, work, school or other activities, avoiding doing things or speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment, avoiding situations where you might be the center of attention. The physical symptoms include: Blushing, profuse sweating, trembling or shaking, nausea, stomach upset, difficulty talking, shaky voice, muscle tension, confusion, palpitations, diarrhea, cold and clammy hands, and difficulty making eye contact.
Basically, this phobia manifests a symptom of being overly anxious around other people. Sufferers think that other people are more confident that they are, that other people are better them. They feel uncomfortable being around people that it makes it difficult for them to eat, drink, work, asking questions, asking for dates, even going to the toilet, when other people are around.
The good news is that there is a cure for this condition. For the past 20 years, a combination of talk therapy and medications has proven most helpful to limit the effects, if not cure, this mental condition. Certain anti-depressants (Paroxetine, Sertraline and Venlafaxine), anti-anxiety medications, and beta blockers are used to help Socio-phobic people to balance certain chemicals in the brain and minimize panic attacks during periods of heightened anxiety. Talk therapy teaches people with social anxiety disorder to react differently to situations that trigger their anxiety. The therapist helps the patient confront the negative feelings about social situations and the fear about being judged by others. Patients learn how their thinking patterns add to the symptoms of social anxiety disorder and how to change their thinking so the symptoms begin to lessen.
To be shy is quite normal, everybody has gone through a similar phase. Getting past that stage is the difficult part. Ultimately, it ends up to building your confidence to a certain level for you to be comfortable enough to move normally. In case you've been diagnosed as a socio-phobic, it is nothing to be ashamed of. With a little bit of therapy, proper medication, and enough support from people who believe in you, you'll slowly be able to do socialize and function normally within a group without being too anxious.
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